Here are some things you can do to try and keep yourself safe while out at parties or bars:
- Do not leave your drink unattended
- Only accept drinks from a bartender or server - not from casual acquaintances or strangers
- Get your drinks in bottles, not drinking glasses and keep your thumb over the top of the bottle
- Do not take drinks from punch bowls or open, unattended containers
- Do not share or exchange your drinksIf your drink is left unattended - don't drink it
- Go to and from parties and bars in a buddy system - make a pact not to leave eachother no matter what happens or who you meet
- Set your sexual limits before you go out for the night and stick to them
- Be assertive with your personal limits
- Avoid going into cars with people you don't know very well
- Be prepared to provide you own transportation homeDon't leave a party alone with someone you just met
- Be prepared to be loud if you need help or to defend yourself
- Let your parents or friends know who you are going out with
- Trust your instincts
And for you guys...
- Don't put pressure on a woman to have sex
- Don't assume you know what she wants
- Speak up if you feel you are getting mixed messages from her
- If you are confused about what she is telling you - don't have sex
- Keep in mind that alcohol and drugs impair your judgment
- Consent in not legal if someone is under the influence of alcohol or drugs and you have not been previously sexually active with them
- Know which behaviours constitutes a sexual assault
What to do if you feel threatened:
- If you feel you are in an uncomfortable or unsafe situation you are probably right. Get yourself out as soon as possible.
- Try to negotiate or stall for time
- Try to distract the assailant then run away or try to escape
- Don't be afraid to call for help or "make a scene"
- Scream loudly to attract attention. Say things such as "Leave me alone" or "Get away from me"